About Me:

Thank you for reading a bit more about me. It can be really difficult to choose a therapist but you've already done one of the hardest parts! 

Maybe you're doing okay on the outside - holding it together and getting on with things - but inside it feels like a lot. Maybe anxiety shows up in ways that don't always make sense to you. Maybe you find yourself going along with things, putting others first, saying yes when you mean no, and you're not entirely sure when that started or how to stop. Maybe something happened in the past that you've tried to move on from, but it keeps finding its way into your present, in your relationships, in how safe you feel, in the way you react to things and then wonder why you reacted that way.

You might already have some idea of what's going on. Or it might just feel overwhelming and you don't know where to start. Either is fine here.

You don't have to have it figured out to reach out:

Choosing a therapist can feel like one more thing to get right, and if you're someone who already puts a lot of pressure on yourself, that might be part of why you've been putting it off. And if you notice that when life gets hard, your instinct is actually to pull away from people rather than towards them, to manage it alone, or feel the urge to push support away even when part of you wants it, that makes complete sense too. This space was made for that as well.

There's no pressure to open up straight away. Building trust takes time and we can take all the time we need with that. This is your space to show up exactly as you are. There's no judgement here, no pressure to be further along than you are or to get it right, because there's no such thing as getting it wrong. You're free to share as much or as little as feels right, and you'll always be met with understanding rather than expectation.

You don't have to be at rock bottom to reach out either. Sometimes people just reach a point where they want more than just getting by. Understanding yourself, knowing why you feel and react the way you do, and feeling like you have more control and genuine choice in your life is so powerful. I believe we all deserve to feel that, and that's what we work towards together.

How I work:

Therapy with me is us working together but is always led by you. You're the expert on your own life, and my job is to help you make sense of it, not to tell you what to do with it.

I'm trained in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), so if you want practical tools, strategies, and a clear framework to work from, I can offer that. But I also know that sometimes what's getting in the way isn't a lack of strategies. It's something that runs deeper, rooted in experiences and relationships from the past. I'll follow your lead on what feels most useful for you.

A big part of what I do involves helping people understand why they work the way they do. Our brains and nervous systems are incredible and understanding that, really understanding it, can be genuinely life-changing. It's hard to keep beating yourself up for how you respond when you understand how your mind and body work.

I also work with the body (somatically) as well as the mind. Sometimes words only go so far, and learning to notice what's happening physically, and to sit with it rather than fight it, can be one of the most powerful things we do together. Understanding your nervous system and learning to work with it, rather than feeling taken over by it, is something many people find both fascinating and freeing.

We might be a good fit if:

You're tired of feeling like you're too much, or never quite enough. You're good at looking after others but find it hard to show to same care to yourself. You want to understand your patterns, not just manage them. Or you've tried to think your way out of something and found that it only goes so far.

A lot of people I work with have carried beliefs about themselves for years, that they're not enough, that they have to be perfect, that they're somehow too much. Those beliefs aren't fixed, and that's a big part of what we work on together. Not just your relationships with other people, but your relationship with yourself.

Specialism:

I work mostly with adults navigating anxiety, difficulties in relationships, and the lasting effects of painful experiences, particularly people who have spent a long time attuned to everyone else's needs but have lost touch with their own. Much of my work centres on helping people understand how the past has shaped them, make sense of the patterns they find themselves in, and gradually, at their own pace, begin to change them.